I lost two Mom's recently - My mom-in-law, a two time cancer survivor - BC in early eighties and colon in 92/93. She passed Oct 23, 2003 with heart failure and breast cancer in the remaining breast. My Mom, passed Jan 25, 2004. My father in law passed after a long battle with prostrate/bladder cancer in 1987, three days before I lost my youngest son in a car accident.
What we all need to remember is that a loss of a loved one really hurts - regardless of the reason for the hurt. The memories do go on forever in out hearts. A loss of the a child is the worst - as it goes against the natural order of things.